Today at KINDRED MAGAZINE we have a new issue: LOSE. There are articles about lost teeth, lost ideals, lost ancestral knowledge, lost childhood, and lost self-criticism. It's a funny, brave, inspiring issue and I think it highlights the best of what we do.
My article, IN DEFENSE OF GRIEF, is something I've been working on for a few months and it feels both important to me personally but also important for anyone grieving or who knows someone who is. Because I think we don't do grief all that well in our culture. I think we're afraid of grief, both our own and other people's. And this leaves most of us isolated in a difficult season that is less burdensome when others bear it alongside us.
"We need to find a way within our own tribes to fully unpack our grief in the midst of others. We need to acknowledge the season of grieving in some way, and mark it, and give it a process for traveling from one side to the other."
I began thinking about this as we approached the one year memorial of the sudden death of our sweet Ella cat, whom we had from a kitten. It's been a painful year and grief has changed me in ways I never expected. This reflection is part memoir, part manifesto as I remember Ella and think through how we might find better tools for public grief.
In May, KINDRED explored the theme DELVE and I wrote another piece that feels really dear to me right now: IS FOOD MY ENEMY OR AM I? I was in the middle of a cleanse and wanted to explore why extreme indulgence and extreme restriction are so much easier to do than healthy moderation. Why can't I trust myself to make good choices? And in answering that question, I explore the way the food industry's objective of profit is at odds with our own objectives of health and balance. Spoiler: I'm not my enemy, really. And food isn't really either.
Please click through and enjoy not just my articles, but the other other wonderful content over at KINDRED: women writers supporting each other as we unpack all the hilarity and beauty of life.